Saturday, February 19, 2011

Temples and the Plan of Salvation

I was asked to speak in church this past Sunday on the role of the temples in the plan of salvation (also called the plan of happiness, plan of redemption, plan of mercy, and our Heavenly Father's plan). Usually when I speak or teach at church I just do outlines to remind myself of what I want to say so sharing the talks or lessons wouldn't benefit anyone because the outlines are too vague. But for this talk I used a lot of quotes and so decided to type it all out, so I decided I would go ahead and share it. Here it is:

Those of us who attended Primary as children sang “I love to see the temple. I’m going there someday To feel the Holy Spirit, To listen and to pray. For the temple is a house of God, A place of love and beauty. I’ll prepare myself while I am young; This is my sacred duty.

I love to see the temple. I’ll go inside someday. I’ll cov’nant with my Father;
I’ll promise to obey. For the temple is a holy place Where we are sealed together. As a child of God, I’ve learned this truth: A fam’ly is forever.


Later in our youth we pledged that we would “Make and keep sacred covenants, receive the ordinances of the temple, and enjoy the blessings of exaltation.”


And that pledge that we made in our youth is the recipe for joy in this life and in the life to come, the way for us to receive all that the Father has – we make and keep sacred covenants, we attend the temple and receive more ordinances and make more covenants, and as we keep all the covenants, we are promised that we will enjoy the blessings of exaltation.


In the “The Family: A Proclamation to the World” we read that “Sacred ordinances and covenants available in holy temples make it possible for individuals to return to the presence of God and for families to be united eternally.” That is the goal for each of us – to return to our Father's presence and live with Him and our eternal families. And we can obtain that goal by making and keeping sacred ordinances and covenants available in the temple.


Joseph Smith taught that the divine purpose of gathering the people of God is to build temples so His children can receive the highest ordinances and thereby gain eternal life. So the purpose of all that we do in the church is to prepare people for the temple so that families can be sealed for eternity and we can receive eternal life. We are taught from our infancy in the church that we need to get to the temple, and how to do it.


As I speak today I hope to address why the temple is so important, what we can do to be there, once there what we can do to make temple worship meaningful in our lives, and what blessings we are promised in association with the temple. In the April 2009 general conference there were 4 fantastic talks on temples and their importance in our lives. Most of what I will share today comes from those talks.


Why the Temple is So Important


When Elder Bednar was called as a stake president he was talking to a friend of his who had been recently released as a stake president what counsel he would have. His friend soon after his release was called a s a temple worker. He told Elder Bednar:


“I wish I had been a temple worker before I was a stake president. If I had served in the temple before my call to serve as a stake president, I would have been a very different stake president....I believe I was a good stake president. The programs in our stake ran well, and our statistics were above average. But serving in the temple has expanded my vision. If I were called today to serve as a stake president, my primary focus would be on worthiness to receive and honor temple covenants. I would strive to make temple preparation the center of all that we did. I would do a better job of shepherding the Saints to the house of the Lord.”


So why would that be his focus, why is the temple so important? Elder Stevenson recounted a story of a time his dad took his two young sons on a drive. He his grandsons down small Logan roads and to to a place they had never been before, and then stopping the truck asked them if they thought they were lost. After a moment, on of the boys responded “Look”, and with his finger pointed he said, “Grandpa, you are never lost when you can see the temple.” And that is it, when the temple is our focus we are not lost, we recognize our goal and how to achieve it. Elder Stevenson said: "The temple will provide direction for you and your family in a world filled with chaos. It is an eternal guidepost which will help you from getting lost in the “mist of darkness”."


I would bet that all of us at one point or another, or maybe even currently, feel that life is pretty hard. We face trials – that is part of life. But what determines whether trials feel to be more of a curse or a blessing is determined by how we react to them. Elder Christofferson told of a couple in Peru who he talked to after a massive earthquake. Immediately following the earthquake, this couple, the Condes, set about helping people. Elder Nash of the Seventy met the Condes four days after the earthquake. He said that they were smiling as they set about helping those around them. As he asked what the state of their house and other possessions were they said that the house was gone and all their possessions were buried in the house – they had nothing left. He asked them how they were able to smile at such a time and the wife replied “I have prayed and I am at peace. We have all we need. We have each other, we have our children, we are sealed in the temple, we have this marvelous Church, and we have the Lord. We can build again with the Lord’s help.”


He went on to explain that the church needs members like the Condes, those who “can persevere against hardship, who can sustain hope through tragedy, who can lift others by their example and their compassion, and who can consistently overcome temptations. We need strong Christians who can make important things happen by their faith and who can defend the truth of Jesus Christ against moral relativism and militant atheism.” And not only does the church, and God, need these strong members, but we need this strength. And so he explained how we can become that strong, how we can obtain the spiritual power we need to be able to meet all situations with smiles on our faces.


What is the source of such moral and spiritual power, and how do we obtain it? The source is God. Our access to that power is through our covenants with Him. … What is it about making and keeping covenants with God that gives us the power to smile through hardships, to convert tribulation into triumph, to “be anxiously engaged in a good cause, … and bring to pass much righteousness” (D&C 58:27)?


He then discusses three ways that our covenants strengthen us:

First, as we walk in obedience to the principles and commandments of the gospel of Jesus Christ, we enjoy a continual flow of blessings promised by God in His covenant with us. Those blessings provide the resources we need to act rather than simply be acted upon as we go through life.


A second way in which our covenants supply strength—they produce the faith necessary to persevere and to do all things that are expedient in the Lord. Our willingness to take upon us the name of Christ and keep His commandments requires a degree of faith, but as we honor our covenants, that faith expands.


A final aspect of strength through covenants that I will mention is the bestowal of divine power. Our covenant commitment to Him permits our Heavenly Father to let His divine influence, “the power of godliness” (D&C 84:20), flow into our lives. He can do that because by our participation in priesthood ordinances we exercise our agency and elect to receive it. Our participation in those ordinances also demonstrates that we are prepared to accept the additional responsibility that comes with added light and spiritual power.


In all the ordinances, especially those of the temple, we are endowed with power from on high. This “power of godliness” comes in the person and by the influence of the Holy Ghost. The gift of the Holy Ghost is part of the new and everlasting covenant. It is an essential part of our baptism, the baptism of the Spirit. It is the messenger of grace by which the blood of Christ is applied to take away our sins and sanctify us (see 2 Nephi 31:17). It is the gift by which Adam was “quickened in the inner man” (Moses 6:65). It was by the Holy Ghost that the ancient Apostles endured all that they endured and by their priesthood keys carried the gospel to the known world of their day.

When we have entered into divine covenants, the Holy Ghost is our comforter, our guide, and our companion.

When we talk about going to the temple to receive our endowment we tend to focus on the ordinance of the endowment, which is super important. Through the endowment we are given the gift of all the knowledge we will need to return to our Heavenly Father's presence. But before the endowment there are other super important ordinances that we receive, the initiatory ordinances. These ordinances or washing, annointing, and being clothed in the garments of the priesthood have been given since the beginning and we can read about them in the Old Testament. In these we are given blessings, blessings for our bodies and spirits, that will help us in this life, and in the next, and one of the most important of these blessings is that if we are faithful to our covenants we will be protected from the power of Satan. We are given power to withstand the other powers in the world that would lead us to misery. That is HUGE!

Elder Scott recounted his experiences with not only the eath of his wife, but also of his daughter, and his son. Those would be pretty significant trials. He said that these trials have not been a problem.

When we live righteously and have received the ordinances of the temple, everything else is in the hands of the Lord. We can do the best we can, but the final outcome is up to Him. We should never complain, when we are living worthily, about what happens in our lives.

Fourteen years ago the Lord decided it was not necessary for my wife to live any longer on the earth, and He took her to the other side of the veil. I confess that there are times when it is difficult not to be able to turn and talk to her, but I do not complain. The Lord has allowed me, at important moments in my life, to feel her influence through the veil.

What I am trying to teach is that when we keep the temple covenants we have made and when we live righteously in order to maintain the blessings promised by those ordinances, then come what may, we have no reason to worry or to feel despondent.

I am confident that we all want and need that kind of strength and power in our lives. So what can we do to get to the temple so we can receive it?

What We Can Do to Be There

Well, the first thing that needs to be done is exercising the first principles and ordinances of the gospel – Faith in Jesus Christ, Repentance, Baptism by immersion by one having authority, and then receiving the Gift of the Holy Ghost.

Elder Chrstofferson said:

Our foundational covenant, for example, the one in which we first pledge our willingness to take upon us the name of Christ, is confirmed by the ordinance of baptism. It is done individually, by name. By this ordinance, we become part of the covenant people of the Lord and heirs of the celestial kingdom of God.


Elder Maxwell taught: “Clearly, when we baptize, our eyes should gaze beyond the baptismal font to the holy temple.”


Elder Oaks explained that in renewing our baptismal covenants by partaking of the emblems of the sacrament, “we do not witness that we take upon us the name of Jesus Christ. [Rather], we witness that we are willing to do so. (See D&C 20:77.) The fact that we only witness to our willingness suggests that something else must happen before we actually take that sacred name upon us in the [ultimate and] most important sense” (“Taking upon Us the Name of Jesus Christ,” Ensign, May 1985, 81).


Elder Bednar points out then that “the baptismal covenant clearly contemplates a future event or events and looks forward to the temple.” So we begin the process through faith, repentance, baptism,and receiving the Holy Ghost, but we know that there is more. As we partake of the sacrament to renew our covenants we recognize that we need to focus on the temple.

Elder Stevenson said:

In the Book of Mormon, King Benjamin directed the Saints of his time and place to gather, “every man having his tent with the door thereof towards the temple.” As Church members, we have recently received counsel from modern-day prophets which, if followed, will turn the doors of our homes more fully towards the temple.

He went on:

We are blessed to live in a temple-building dispensation in which 146 temples have been dedicated or announced. Under the definition of “Temple” in the Bible Dictionary, we read the following: “It is the most holy of any place of worship on the earth,” followed by this insightful statement: “Only the home can compare with the temple in sacredness.” For me this suggests a sacred relationship between the temple and the home. Not only can we turn the doors of our homes to the temple, or the house of the Lord; we can make our homes a “house of the Lord.”

Recently, in a stake conference, all present were invited by the visiting authority, Elder Glen Jenson, an Area Seventy, to take a virtual tour of their homes using their spiritual eyes. I would like to invite each of you to do this also. Wherever your home may be and whatever its configuration, the application of eternal gospel principles within its walls is universal. Let’s begin. Imagine that you are opening your front door and walking inside your home. What do you see, and how do you feel? Is it a place of love, peace, and refuge from the world, as is the temple? Is it clean and orderly? As you walk through the rooms of your home, do you see uplifting images which include appropriate pictures of the temple and the Savior? Is your bedroom or sleeping area a place for personal prayer? Is your gathering area or kitchen a place where food is prepared and enjoyed together, allowing uplifting conversation and family time? Are scriptures found in a room where the family can study, pray, and learn together? Can you find your personal gospel study space? Does the music you hear or the entertainment you see, online or otherwise, offend the Spirit? Is the conversation uplifting and without contention? That concludes our tour. Perhaps you, as I, found a few spots that need some “home improvement”—hopefully not an “extreme home makeover.”

Whether our living space is large or small, humble or extravagant, there is a place for each of these gospel priorities in each of our homes.

In order to keep the temple and those who attend it sacred and worthy, the Lord has established standards through His servants, the prophets. We may be well-advised to consider together, in family council, standards for our homes to keep them sacred and to allow them to be a “house of the Lord.” The admonition to “establish … a house of prayer, a house of fasting, a house of faith, a house of learning, a house of glory, a house of order, a house of God” (D&C 109:8) provides divine insight into the type of home the Lord would have us build. Doing such begins the construction of a “spiritual mansion” in which we all may reside regardless of our worldly circumstance—a home filled with treasure that “neither moth nor rust doth corrupt.”

So we can prepare ourselves for the temple by making our homes sacred sanctuaries from the world, places dedicated to the Lord.

In 2003 the First Presidency sent out a later that encouraged “newer members and youth of the Church who are 12 years of age and older to live worthy to assist in this great work by serving as proxies for baptisms and confirmations.” In this ward we are blessed to have scheduled trips to the temple once a month where we can all participate in the saving ordinances of the temple – we can help our fellow brothers and sisters to qualify for celestial glory. But you can go more than once a month - go every week! If you do not currently have a temple recommend I encourage you to do what you need to do to get one. And this is something even our newest members can do, there is no waiting time to be able to perform baptisms and receive the Holy Ghost for those who did not have this privilege. Being in the temple is a great way to prepare for the opportunity to receive all the ordinances there.

So we get to the temple through faith, repentance, baptism, receiving the Holy Ghost, living faithfully to those covenants, and when we fail (which is constantly) we repent and renew our covenants through partaking of the sacrament, and then setting the temple as our goal and being there as much as possible.


Once There What Can We Do to Make Temples Meaningful in Our Lives?

So, we have gotten to the temple. What do we need to do to fully receive the promised power? In that letter from the First Presidency they invited “adult members to have a current temple recommend and visit the temple more often”, “to replace some leisure activities with temple service.” So we remember that the temple is still our goal.

In his talk, Elder Scott told of several things we can do to make our temple worship more meaningful. He said:

I encourage you to establish your own goal of how frequently you will avail yourself of the ordinances offered in our operating temples. What is there that is more important than attending and participating in the ordinances of the temple? What activity could have a greater impact and provide more joy and profound happiness for a couple than worshipping together in the temple?

  • Understand the doctrine related to temple ordinances, especially the significance of the Atonement of Jesus Christ.
  • While participating in temple ordinances, consider your relationship to Jesus Christ and His relationship to our Heavenly Father. This simple act will lead to greater understanding of the supernal nature of the temple ordinances.
  • Always prayerfully express gratitude for the incomparable blessings that flow from temple ordinances. Live each day so as to give evidence to Father in Heaven and His Beloved Son of how very much those blessings mean to you.
  • Schedule regular visits to the temple.
  • Leave sufficient time to be unhurried within the temple walls.
  • Rotate activities so that you can participate in all of the ordinances of the temple.
  • Remove your watch when you enter a house of the Lord.
  • Listen carefully to the presentation of each element of the ordinance with an open mind and heart.
  • Be mindful of the individual for whom you are performing the vicarious ordinance. At times pray that he or she will recognize the vital importance of the ordinances and be worthy or prepare to be worthy to benefit from them.
  • Recognize that much of the majesty of the sealing ordinance cannot be understood and remembered with one live experience. Substantial subsequent vicarious work permits one to understand much more of what is communicated in the live ordinances.
  • Realize that a sealing ordinance is not enduring until after it is sealed by the Holy Spirit of Promise. Both individuals must be worthy and want the sealing to be eternal.
  • Identify your ancestors, qualify them, and come to the house of the Lord to perform the ordinances they are longing to receive.

Helping in the work of our ancestors is actually something all of us can and should be doing. We can all search them out and prepare them to be able to receive the ordinances. We recently had a whole committee called to help us with this, so if you do not know how to do family history on your own I am sure any of them, Stacy, Kayla, or Sarah, would be happy to assist you.

When Elder Bednar was president of BYU Idaho he often had the opportunity to host many emeritus General Authorities at his house, many who had later become temple presidents. He had a common question he would ask all of them. “What have you learned as a temple president that you wish you had better understood when you were a General Authority?” He said their responses were pretty much all the same, and he summarized it as:

“I have come to understand better the protection available through our temple covenants and what it means to make an acceptable offering of temple worship. There is a difference between church-attending, tithe-paying members who occasionally rush into the temple to go through a session and those members who faithfully and consistently worship in the temple.”

Going to the temple is not meant to be something that we check off of our list of things to do, and if we go in that spirit, then what we will receive is far less than the blessings and promised power and protection that we could receive if we were to attend in a spirit of worship, and did so consistently.


Promised Blessings

So what are some of those promised blessings? Well, they are many. For one thing, during the endowment we are taught from on high about the plan of salvation. Last week as I was teaching temple preparation we listed some of the blessings promised in the dedicatory prayer of the Kirtland Temple, which can be found in D&C 109. It was great exercise because in doing so we realized that every blessing we could possibly hope for is promised. For brevity I will read just versus 24-28:

“We ask thee, Holy Father, to establish the people that shall worship, and honorably hold a name and standing in this thy house, to all generations and for eternity;

“That no weapon formed against them shall prosper; that he who diggeth a pit for them shall fall into the same himself;

“That no combination of wickedness shall have power to rise up and prevail over thy people upon whom thy name shall be put in this house;

“And if any people shall rise against this people, that thine anger be kindled against them;

“And if they shall smite this people thou wilt smite them; thou wilt fight for thy people as thou didst in the day of battle, that they may be delivered from the hands of all their enemies”.


Elder Bednar also read these versus and then said:

Please consider these verses in light of the current raging of the adversary and what we have discussed about our willingness to take upon us the name of Jesus Christ and the blessing of protection promised to those who honorably hold a name and standing in the holy temple. Significantly, these covenant blessings are to all generations and for all eternity. I invite you to study repeatedly and ponder prayerfully the implications of these scriptures in your life and for your family.

We should not be surprised by Satan’s efforts to thwart or discredit temple worship and work. The devil despises the purity in and the power of the Lord’s house. And the protection available to each of us in and through temple ordinances and covenants stands as a great obstacle to the evil designs of Lucifer.

We need that protection so much! Don't let Satan keep you from receiving it.


When we were baptized we were promised that through our worthiness we could receive celestial glory. Which is fantastic! But through the reception of all the temple ordinances we are also promised exaltation – we are promised that if we are faithful to our covenants we will be heirs not only to the celestial kingdom, but exaltation – and thereby we will obtain all the divine possibilities God can give. That is our goal. And it is our Heavenly Father's and Savior's goal for us - that is the whole reason for the plan of salvation - why the Savior has done all He did for us - because they want us to have all they have. In D&C 132: 19-20 it says:

It shall be done unto them in all things whatsoever my servant hath put upon them, in time, and through all eternity; and shall be of full force when they are out of the world; and they shall pass by the angels, and the gods, which are set there, to their exaltation and glory in all things, as hath been sealed upon their heads, which glory shall be a fulness and a continuation of the seeds forever and ever.

Then shall they be gods, because they have no end; therefore shall they be from everlasting to everlasting, because they continue; then shall they be above all, because all things are subject unto them. Then shall they be gods, because they have all power, and the angels are subject unto them.


I hope that you all want those blessings as much as I do. Elder Christofferson said:

Divine covenants make strong Christians. I urge each one to qualify for and receive all the priesthood ordinances you can and then faithfully keep the promises you have made by covenant. In times of distress, let your covenants be paramount and let your obedience be exact. Then you can ask in faith, nothing wavering, according to your need, and God will answer. He will sustain you as you work and watch. In His own time and way He will stretch forth his hand to you, saying, “Here am I.”


We have the opportunity to converse with the Lord. We are so blessed to live at this time. A time when not only can we receive these covenants, ordinances, and blessing for ourselves, but we can help others to receive them as well. Although temple ordinances have been performed since the time of Adam, it wasn't until after Christ opened the way for the gospel to be preached in the spirit world that we were able to perform ordinances for those who died without these blessings. That is a great blessing to us, to be able to return to the temple as often as we choose and be reminded of the covenants we made, the ordinances we received, and the blessings we have been promised, and at the same time do for others what they cannot do for themselves, to become saviors on mount zion.


Elder Packer said:

When you come to the temple and receive your endowment, and kneel at the altar to be sealed, you can live an ordinary life and be an ordinary soul - struggling against temptation, failing and repenting, and failing again and repenting, but always determined to keep your covenants.... Then the day will come when you will receive the benediction: 'Well done, though good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many thing; enter thou into the joy of thy lord' (Matthew 25:21)".


Thursday, December 2, 2010

10 Year Anniversary

Have you noticed that in America we are way too focused on "taking". We "take" baths, showers, naps, tests, breaks, etc. Where are we taking these things from and where are we taking them too? Why so much taking? But the phrase using taking that I dislike the most is "take out my endowments". The endowment (a special spiritual blessing given to worthy and faithful members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the temple), like the Holy Ghost, is a gift - it cannot be taken, it must be given, and for it to be meaningful in our lives we must choose to receive it. I received my endowment (or at least began to) 10 years ago. It is strange to me that it has already been 10 years since I remember that day so well, but it has been, and over these past ten years I have received my endowment more fully each time I have attended the temple.
Since that time I have attended 19 temples (plus visited 8 more that were closed) - there are similarities and differences about all of them, and I have loved them all. But the best part of all of them for me is the peace that I feel, even when I am first on the temple grounds. I am so grateful for that peace, and for the strength and answers I have received as I have attended the temple. What a great gift!

The Las Vegas Nevada Temple - where I first received my endowment.

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Meeting an Apostle

Our stake president has been serving for 10 years now, which is the amount of time they normally do, so we have just had a change of our stake presidency. We've known for a while that it would be happening, and while I know our new stake presidency will also do great, I'll be sad to not have our past one because they are just fantastic. But one great thing about this change is that Elder Christofferson of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles came to reorganize our stake along with Elder Right of the Seventy. I have met several of the general authorities. I have liked, enjoyed, and been impressed with all of them. Elder Christofferson was no exception.
Elder Christofferson
Before he came President Beesley, our stake president that was just released, suggested that we prepare ourselves for his visit, and that we invite others to attend. I am glad he suggested that, I am not sure I would have thought to do that myself. I invited some of my co-workers. One of them, Hannah, came. I have brought Hannah to a lot of church activities, and to a lot of activities with people from church, but this was the first time I actually took her to church. She came not only to the full stake conference on Sunday, but also to the Saturday night adult session. She really enjoyed it and even took notes. After the Friday night session I asked Hannah if she would like to shake his hand. She said we did so we did. It was a pretty neat experience, I had the feeling they could tell that Hannah was not a member of our church, not in a bad way, just that they could feel she was a little different than most of the congregation. They paid her special attention. It made me want to cultivate that same spirit of discernment so that I can better reach out to those in need.

The conference really was quite fantastic. Some of the most important things I learned/ was reminded of were (these are not quotes, just what I learned while listening):
Brother Betts ( a member of our Stake)
-I should speak more frequently about Jesus Christ
-I need to cultivate an attitude of service
-We need to understand our relationship to God - the pedigree of our spirits can be written on a single line - I am a child of God
-No other doctrine will change behavior more than an understanding of the doctrine of the atonement
President Beesley (exiting Stake president)
-As you go on the Lord's errand He will send the Holy Ghost, and He will tell you what you need to say
-Take notice of how you feel - if you feel the promptings you should go
-You can desire the atonement, and that is sufficient (none of us actually deserve it)
-The great joy in your life will be from brining someone to the feet of the Savior and He will heal them
President Wilden (exiting 1st counselor)
-Mosiah 18:9 defines home and visiting teaching - reach out to bless the members of the church
President Stancliff (exiting 2nd counselor)
-There are only a few callings in the church that are life-long callings - we are called and we serve - we are never elft alone to know what to do - if we pray and ask how we can best represent Heavenly Father and magnify our callings we will be prompted to know how
President Rhodes ( new stake president - was our patriarch)
-If you don't step out of your comfort zone you will never learn, if you never learn you won't grow, if you don't grow you will not have joy
-We are all living well below the blessings Heavenly Father has for us
-Heavenly Father is far more concerned with who we are becoming that with what we are doing - He's not concerned with the little boxes we check
President Sagers (Ft. Worth Texas Mission President)
-It is not so much who the apostle is, but the office he holds
Elder RIght
-Ponder anew what the Almighty can do, who with His great love doth befriend us - try to be more charitable and kind, don't estimate the power of love
-Ponder what gifts Heavenly Father has in store for me that I am not claiming
-We can't be healed without the atonement
-We individually choose to apply the healing powers of the atonement - no one can choose it for you
-Physical death and suffering pales in comparison to spiritual death and suffering
-The atonement can heal all suffering - it is not just specific to one kind
-The atonement will not run out - it is eternal
-In order for this meeting (as well as regular church meetings, temple attendance, etc.) to have an impact we must change, we must leave a little different than we came - apply the words of Elder Chrsitofferson
Elder Christofferson
-The Lord's acceptance of my offering is the highest honor that could come to anyone
-Don't snack on the gospel
-Keeping the commandments is the key to success in every meaningful sense
-It's not the thing that happens that makes the difference but how we face it - whether we turn to God or away from Him
-There is no suffering we can face that the Savior cannot convert into a blessing for our benefit if we will turn to HIm
-If you want everything He can give you, give Him everything you are
-The Savior must be at the very center of my life
-Take advantage of every opportunity to being the temple
-Learn another language
-It is a great privilege that the Lord lets us assist Him in HIs work - the desire to bless the lives of others in ways with eternal significance is innate - we are so blessed as members of the church to have the opportunity to serve - through this service we are permitted to give His children we learn, we grow, and become more as He is
-Pray that the new stake president will be blessed and that the windows of heaven will be opened for them - the Lord has blessings for you individually and for the stake if you will do so
-If you haven't received a patriarchal blessing yet, do so
-The ultimate gift of service is in receiving the Melchizedek Priesthood
-Don't compare yourself to others in a way that makes you feel discouraged and want to give up - If you do look at others do so only to see them as an example and mentor of what you could become - learn all you can, take advantage of help and the examples of those around you
-It doesn't matter how many talents we have, we just need to be diligent with what we have and we will all receive the same blessing
-If you will be diligent it is enough - it is not requisite that a man run faster than he has strength - if he will be diligent he will win the prize (D&C 123:17) - cheerfully do what you can and be assured the Lord will do the rest
-We must be careful as we seek to become more Christlike that we con't become discouraged - becoming Christlike is a lifelong pursuit
-What a tragedy it would be to not take advantage of the blessing it is to be alive at this time with the gospel on the earth - lay claim on the blessings the Lord has provided for us
-There is no stronger witness of Christ than the Book of Mormon

In addition to all these great lessons Elder Christofferson also left us with tons of apostolic blessings. I feel that such blessings are a little personal, but if you would like to know more about them leave a message and I will send you an eamil about them.
Anyway, it was a fantastic conference and I felt blessed to be able to be there.

Sunday, May 23, 2010

Soul Sisters

In the first area of my mission I lived in a house with my companion (obviously) and another companionship (so two other girls). One of my roommates had a sister that sent her a talk tape, but on the tape she also included the song "Soul Sisters". It kind of became our theme song. So when I think of that song I think of the "Sisters" (women that I served with) on my mission. Although I learned a lot from a lot of different sisters on my mission, I just want to write about my companions, what I learned from them.

-Crystal Little - she was my MTC companion, my very first companion. I was blessed to get to serve in the same branch with her for our first six months in the field as well. We always wanted to be companions again, but I wasn't blessed with that chance. But we were trained at the same time (obviously) and then we trained at the same time. We got to talk about what we were learning along the way and since we were experiencing similar things it was extra helpful and drew us even closer together. From her I learned that a mission should be filled with joy AND FUN. She always worked hard, but with a smile on her face. Just seeing her you could tell how much she loved being a missionary. I also learned humility by her example. Also, I learned to think about what you say before saying it. She never was careless in her speech - what she spoke she meant to say, and it was always good.
-Jenny Cashmore - she was my trainer - that means she was my first companion in the field and was in charge of teaching me what to do as a missionary - and she did great. I have known a lot of people that did not like their trainer. I LOVED my trainer. From her I learned not only what to do as a missionary, but I learned the power of loving the people (she is filled with love) and to work hard til the end.
-Sandi Peterson - I trained her. From her I learned even more about how to be a missionary. I learned the power of testimony. I learned to pray more fervently. She really helped me become a better person.
-Christy Conger - I learned from her the power of touch (she always had hugs) and of laughter, even when you might not be that happy.
-Nancy Anderson - I learned from her to be sensitive to other people's feelings - that even though you may think what you are saying his harmless and you don't mean it in a negative or hurtful way, you should think about how what you are saying may be interpreted by others. I learned to laugh a lot more. And I learned about service.
-Haleigh McMullin - we were in a trio with Nancy Anderson, so when Haleigh came I learned about I learned about what it is like to be in a trio. I also learned more about how to let people know how important they are to you and to God.
-Shani Brinkerhoff - I learned the importance of faith and of the atonement in missionary work. I learned about relaxing sometimes and just having fun.
-Tsolomon - she is Mongolian and only has one name. I learned about being sensitive to different people's cultures. I learned about true charity. I learned about some flaws American's have, and some strengths. I learned we are all put in different places for reasons, whether to bless others or to be blessed by them.
-Jamie Whipple - from and with her I finally learned to have fun as a missionary - to have fun and be happy and really love being a missionary while still working hard and trying your best - to not be stressed about things out of your control or about little mistakes. I am not sure why it took my entire mission to learn this, my mission president wanted me to learn it much sooner, but I finally did - I am so grateful to her for helping me learn it.

And that is all the companions I had - they were pretty freaking fantastic, so lucky.

Saturday, May 22, 2010

A Miracle Today

I made a friend my freshman year at BYU - Ty. We stayed friends the whole time I was at BYU, and then I went on my mission and I haven't seen him since then. A few years ago he co-authored a book, In Quiet Desperation. Ryan gave it to me for Christmas a couple years ago and it changed my life. The first third of the book is written by the parents of Stuart Matis - an LDS man who suffered from same-gender attraction and after years of struggling took his life. I remember when that happened, I was at BYU and felt so much sorrow for him and his family. His parents tell of his struggle and what they learned from it. The last two thirds are written by Ty - he tells of his own struggles with same-gender attraction and what he has learned. I LOVE this book - I think EVERYONE should read it (READ IT!).

Some of my favorite people in this world have this struggle. My best-friend from BYU (we met the second day of our freshman year and have been good friends ever since) has same-gender attraction, has embraced it, and lives a homosexual life-style. I have a sister that has 4 good friends that I can think of that also have same-gender attraction. While I do not support homosexual activity, I have great compassion for these individuals.

Because of my experiences with people who deal with same-gender attraction I did not think I would necessarily learn a lot from this book, I just thought it would be interesting to read it. But I was WRONG. I learned a ton! I think anyone that reads it learns a ton. The thing that has been most beneficial to me was learning how to apply the atonement more fully. In fact, I learned more about the application of the atonement from this book than any other book I have ever read - not only for forgiveness of sin, but really to become a better person - through the strengthening, enabling, comforting power of it - how it can help you develop true charity. I learned that what your challenge is doesn't matter - we all have challenges designed to help us draw closer to Christ. Ty says that same-gender attraction is not a weakness, it is a challenge that exposes weakness, a weakness of faith.

Additionally, for some time I was of the opinion that it was wrong to encourage people with same-gender attraction to marry someone of the opposite sex - that this will only lead to pain for all involved. While I still believe that people with this challenge should not be encouraged to just get married, or that getting married will cure them of their attraction, Ty taught me that there are people with same gender-attraction who are blessed with a person in their lives of the opposite sex that they are sufficiently attracted to to have a happy and successful marriage. That even when they are married they may still be challenged with same-gender attraction, but when you are married the nature of your attraction doesn't matter, as long as you love your spouse and are faithful to him or her. I had never considered that as a possibility before - I am not sure why - it seems so obvious now. But since that time I have prayed that Ty would be able to find someone (a female) in his life that he could marry. I have corresponded with him a few times through email about his book, and about marriage.

Today Ty is getting married to an amazingly beautiful girl. I couldn't be more happy for them. I am 100% confident that Ty is just as attracted to her and in-love with her and devoted to her as I am to Ryan. That Heavenly Father could make such an opportunity possible for them is a miracle to me - and I am grateful to know of it.

Friday, May 21, 2010

My Girls

I have been thinking for some time now about how blessed I have been by the women in my life. I have a fantastic life, filled with fantastic people. I have been wanting to write about the fantastic females in my life for some time now, but haven't taken the time to get around to it. But I am feeling so much joy in thinking about them today that I am going to.

The first group of women is my family. I have SIX sisters - I am so blessed. My sisters are the greatest gift my parents gave me. When people hear about how many sisters I have they will ask what that was like and if we fought a lot - I LOVE having all sister - all six sisters. Anyone that knows me well knows I love my family. My mom is superwoman - literally - the best woman I know. This is not only acknowledged by me and my sisters, but people outside my family as well. Why I was so blessed to be her daughter I do not know, but I am forever grateful. And then I have 6 AMAZING sisters, I love them all. I was also the granddaughter of the two BEST grandma's in the world. I have done a post all about my mom's mom, Grammy, before. I will do one about Grandma Lissa sometime - equally amazing. Added to my group of family women have been my super nieces, my aunts, my cousins, and my mother-in-law and sisters-in-law. I know not everyone really likes their in-laws or feels like their in-laws like them. I LOVE Ryan's family, they are so super good to me, again, I am so blessed.

I grew up in one house - from the time I was one until I graduated from high school and moved away I lived in the same place - my parents still live there. Most of the people that lived around us did the same. I grew up with a HUGE group of girls my age - so lucky. I have two best friends - Wendi and Wendy - who I have known since before I can remember. They are phenomenal. And then there are about 20 more who even though I haven't seen some of them in years I still love them to death and feel close to them (Facebook and Blogs help with this).

I was blessed with great friends at BYU - from roommates to neighbors to classmates - I was blessed.

And then I went on a mission - I was again blessed with companions who taught me TONS and who I love (I will do another post on this).

I got married - to the BEST MAN IN THE WORLD - but this is a post about women so I will have to post about him another time.

We moved to Texas and I have again been blessed by great women. Our family ward here is filled with women around my age (give or take 10 years) and they make my life here joyful. Even though we have been in the single's ward a year now so I don't get to see all my friends as often as I would like - between book club, play group, and game nights we still keep up pretty well.

So why did I get blessed to have so many great women in my life? I don't know, but I think Heavenly Father knew I would need them to bring out my best self, to learn the things I need to learn, and to be happy. Thank you Heavenly Father, and thanks to all the women in my life - LOVE YOU!

Friday, February 5, 2010

Where I am at

Well, I thought I would review my goals and see where I am at.

Spiritual
• Spend time daily doing both personal and family religious study - pretty good
• Get 100% visiting teaching every month - got it last month
• Increase my understanding of the atonement through a more in depth study of the fall and the atonement - have started this but could intensify the study
• Pray for and ponder ways to bring two of my favorite people to full activity in the church - need to improve
• Have at least two of my friends take the discussions - need to work harder
• Learn to do family history and start doing it - need to start
• Catch up and keep up on my journal - doing great on one journal and terrible on the other
• Don't say anything that could be considered gossip and if others start to gossip around me ask them to stop - doing pretty good at not gossiping but haven't yet had hte courage to ask others to stop gossiping

Mental
• Become proficient in fMRI - improving
• Read, or listen to, at least 6 classics - just finished Pride and Prejudice
• Become more expert in autism and the aging brain (not that I am currently an expert in either, I just mean that I might not be considered an expert in either by the end of the year, I will just work on learning more about each) - improving

Family and Home
• Clean my house for real at least once a month (nope, I'm not a great housekeeper, and it is hard to motivate myself to clean when Ryan and I don't make much of a mess so you don't really see dirt) - I did clean my house really well this past month because my parents came to visit
• Pick up my house daily, or at least every other day (don't want to commit to too much) - I have improved
• Call a sister at least every other week (this is a goal not because I have to motivate myself to talk to my sisters, but because I HATE making phone calls to anyone - Ryan is the only one I don't have to talk myself into calling - it's a challenge - can't really explain why) - still working on this - why is it that I hate making phone calls so much - could it be genetic?
• Call my parents every week, or at least every other week (I can't always think of things to say on a weekly basis) - I believe I have talked to my parents at least every other week so far, but that just kind of happened
• See Ryan's family at least once a month - need to work on this - I did see his parents twice and his younger sister once, but didn't see his older sister at all
• Be better at recognizing Ryan's needs and desires and tyring to meet them, even if it means putting them above my own - needs improvement

Physical
• Exercise at least 156 days of the year (that's just 3 times a week) - doing fantastic - I have already exercised 31 days!
• Eat more balanced and healthier (try to get all my food groups in every day in the proportions that I should) - I have been eating pretty healthy, but can improve int he balance area
• Only eat sugar on holidays and mine and Ryan's birthdays - haven't had any sugar this year
• Drink at least 64 ounces of water a day - preferably 80 or more - doing fantastic, I usually drink about 100 ounces, except weekends are a little harder when I am at the temple or church all day
• Take my vitamins every day - doing pretty well - I know I have missed some days but I have taken them more days than I have missed

Social
• Do something with someone other than Ryan and people I work with at least twice a month, preferably once a week - I did last month
• Do at least one act of service, outside of service related to my church callings, once a week - I have been doing this but I haven't yet had to push myself or to do something outside my regular routine yet, so I should stretch myself more
• Have friends to dinner at least once a month - did this
• Keep current on my blog - I am currently a little behind but plan to catch up today

Talents, or lack there of
• Practice the piano - at least an hour a week - definately lacking
• Learn to be a better photographer - definately lacking

I think over all I am doing pretty well, but I obviously still need to improve - hopefully I will do better in February than I did in January.